Question for Delight

Hey...

Okay, now I have something interesting. I am not a writer ... but I love to write. Hmmm... . There have been many changes in my life these days. I am getting new friends ... losing some ... and kind of getting adjusted to a totally new me. Well, changes take effect on you! I have this new friend ... well, known him since childhood but never actually got into conversation. Now, we both spend the casual times of our days talking to each other. This person always keeps my head on the tick. My mind keeps thinking of the little conversations we have about life. Not that this kind of a thinking is new to me but just that I am focusing on small aspects of life and human nature kind of topics these days. Well, I was always interested in that kind of subject... just that I never knew where to start thinking from. Now, I do. Or, I can say that I have always thought of those topics but never really came to a conclusion or solid thought about them. This person has asked me two questions today and this blog is in reply to his questions.

First, What do you(I) think of love (man-woman)?
Secondly, there is a scenario. You(I) kind of started liking a person whom you have always liked as a person. You(I) are (am) now completely in love with him and have confessed your feelings. How would you(I) deal with the situation where the person you love has told you(me) that he is not in a position to accept your love?

I read this line... 'Marry only for Love', from a poster called 'Life's Little Instructions'. Well now it makes a lot of sense to me. I am basically a materialistic person. I believe in the fact that to survive in this world, you need money and also an urge to grow. I really don't know how I actually thought (at one point of time) that we needed money to marry someone. It sounds absolutely ridiculous to me now. May be it was because I could not differentiate between what I wanted to give to myself and what I wanted to give to the person I love. Or, may be I was not able to decide on what I wanted from myself and what I wanted from the person I love. Now, I know what I feel about love and it is the most comfortable thought I have ever had.

My initial answer to the first question was that Love is to be for each other, to respect each other and to believe in each other. Well, that was a very brief one. When we come to detail, my definition to love is something like this ...

Love is the very warm feeling you get when you think of that person. The very way in which that person slips into your thoughts even when you are not with him/her. Love is about the feeling of belonging to someone. Love is about not forgetting that person even when you are busy (I don't mean forget the busy work. But still have that comforting thought that you have their thoughts in you). Love is about spending quality time together and letting the other person be their true self when they are with you. Love is about still loving that person even when you know their short-comings (and not complain). Just because you know their faults, it doesn't mean you show it to them (thats what others do anyways). Love is being able to understand the other person as they are. Love is about loving the person they are. Love is about supporting the person emotionally when they are feeling low or when they ask for it. Love is about respecting their opinions and their dreams. Love is about trusting them, without any inhibitions or prejudice. Love is about believing that the person is capable of what they are and what they want to be. Love is the feeling of belonging and being for each other. Love is, knowing that there is a person to whom you can always go back to and open up yourself. Love is the belief that, that person trusts you and believes in you. Love is where, you feel that your ultimate destination is in their arms, in their look and in their presence.... I feel like I have already heard all these things before. But, I think I heard them when I really did not know what Love was. Now, I think when I know what I feel about love and write, I have more meaning to myself and more meaning to what I define love is.

You must have observed that I did not replace 'Love' anywhere in the above paragraph with 'it', because I feel that Love is something which can not be addressed with any other word.

The answer to the second question is still under construction. So, please feel free to look back again sometime later.